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I don’t care about having a bikini body.
May 6, 2014, 11:03 pm
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Two weeks ago I started a shake-based diet. I lasted four days and then ate a cheeseburger. Here’s the thing:

 

I was very small before I had Tiny Human.

I was very big while I carried Tiny Human.

I had a c-section to get Tiny Human out of my body. 

 

I have a gut. Raise your hand if you have the gut that won’t go away. 

I can’t tell if it’s because I care too much, or if I don’t care even a little bit but this weekend I went to the beach and I wore a tank top over my bathing suit. I don’t necessarily feel pressures from society to look a certain way; in fact, I feel the exact opposite. The world is pressuring me to flaunt my flaws. 

The world is fixated on glorifying mother’s battle scared bodies lately. To be honest, I don’ t think the world is ready for that and I don’t think women are ready or willing to share that. Our bodies look this way because we grew a human inside of our bodies. There is nothing glamorous about that but there is everything beautiful in it.

By saying that women should be proud and show the world their bellies is almost exactly the same as telling women that they should have flat bellies. I have felt this exact feeling; I have said to myself “I need to lose weight so I look like a fit mom”.

The reality is that my stomach looks like a basset hound’s nose a little bit but my kid is happy. 

So, pardon me while I cover that up. I don’t want to look at it. I don’t think anyone else particularly wants to look at it. And I don’t think that by covering up a part of my body that is covered up every day to begin with is demeaning to my self worth. I don’t want to show my stomach because it is not attractive; stop telling me that I should show my stretch marks and saggy stomach because that’s the only way I can demonstrate how strong and proud of a mother I am. 

I am strong.

I am proud.

 

 

And I am wearing this tank top over my bikini. 

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